Hot topic here right, with the release of the F.S.O.G. movie dropping February 13, 2015; just in time for Valentine's Day. I've seen an increasing number of blog posts from everyone and their moms chiming in on the subject. I've read everything from blogs singing it's praises, expressing nothing but good things for F.S.O.G. People fan-girling for it hard x1000. Then there are a lot of other blogs condemning it as disrespectful, abusive, sex condoning, relationship hurting; and lust filled porn.
Color me slightly annoyed, As I was reading some of these blogs I found myself mentally screaming "Oh just shut up!." "Really?," "Seriously?". Then in swoops reason reminding me they are entitled to their opinions, just as I am entitled to mine.
Ding! Good ole reason saves me from an anger fueled rant posted to the internet for everyone to see and run a muck with it. So, I took a step back and gathered my thoughts on the topic. Grab a glass of wine or vodka, and settle in whilst I oblige you with my thoughts.
First things first..
In 2011, when F.S.O.G. hit stores; I was not one of the millions who ran out and bought the book. Nor did I buy it when it was "all the rage" and every woman was losing their minds over it. That point in time it was a book, and I kinda didn't like to read.
Flash forward to Christmas 2012. I received the first book in the F.S.O.G. trilogy as a gift from my husband (gasp). I read it, bought the next book, read it; and got the final book on my kindle fire and read it. For the record, I have read The Twilight Saga and the Hunger Games series, and a few of Sylvia Day's books; but that's it. I have never been big on reading. So please don't take this as a review, because it's not. As for the story, I really liked it, really got engrossed in it; the writing itself however was crap.
Then of course someone had to capitalize on all of the hype. Thus begins talk of a movie, which got everyone buzzing. Then the movie was confirmed and everyone lost their minds all over again. Que all the righteous folks, coming out of the wood works and doing what they do best; criticize.
Take a guess......
What was the biggest criticism about? Sex; of course, it's a no brainer right? The books as well as the movie fully condones sex. It's true it does and there's no way to deny it. But sex of some sort is in vast numbers of other books and movies. The story is extremely disrespectful and abusive they write. Ok; I'm just going to humor myself a minute. A wealthy business man meets a young woman and they enter into an agreement. Thus an array of events unfold, and the majority of which involves sexual activities. In that logic; then let's throw the movie Pretty Woman in right a long with F.S.O.G. Maybe not written word for word, but they are both very similar, I'm sorry that I don't understand how one is abusive and degrading and the other is a classic romantic love story? Pretty Woman is allowed to be defended but F.S.O.G. isn't because it contains more taboo's and sex. Seriously?
Yes, sex is heavily involved in the story of F.S.O.G. and because of that people are stating it's affecting the readers heart..... thus effecting their marriages. Excuse my chuckling, and please allow my retort. I can't help but think that if you are letting a trilogy of books containing fictional characters mess with your marriage dynamic; maybe you shouldn't be married in the first place. I get losing yourself in a book, especially if the story is good. It's fantasy while using your imagination. but in the end still just a story.
Did the divorce rate sky rocket when people realized they weren't married to a sparkly vampire or beefed up werewolf? Were you let let down to find out your spouse didn't attend Hogwarts or win the Hunger Games; or weren't secretly insurgents? No!, because it isn't real at all; It's just made up and possibly fictional. Yet, it's being knocked; solely based on people questionably not ready for or confident in their marriages; further blurring the line between fantasy and reality.
What infuriates me the most though.......
Is the fact that a good number of the people voicing their views and commenting on the subject haven't even read the series; or haven't read the first book.Some not even reading half of the first book. They are the ones making the most noise, and openly conforming they have not nor do not intend on reading the books. Then taking it upon themselves to let the rest of us know how terrible the book is, and how abusive and degrading towards women it is and they want to boycott it. Blah! Blah! Blah!
You are sounding off on something that you know nothing about. Jumping on the let's hate F.S.O.G. wagon because we have nothing better to do. If you haven't actually read the books then how can you have an informed opinion about them? You can't, but that doesn't stop you from running your mouths about it. So I'm gonna call it like I see it. You're all biased; plain and simple. You fear what you don't understand and in turn attack it unjustly. You are unfairly prejudiced towards F.S.O.G.
As for the group of people defending the trilogy and movie. Those of us posting conflicting opinions, we're all a bunch of perverted, overly sexed, sinners; that hate our marriages. Who don't think our spouses are good enough the way they are.
My response to all that nonsense. First, we're all sinners, no escaping that. Second, labeling someone for not sharing the same views as you on sex or any subject for that matter is incredibly ignorant. Every single person is different; some talk about sex openly and are comfortable with it. While others think it should be kept private. Some like playing it safe and plain old vanilla. Others like a little rule breaking and mixing it up. It all comes down to each person's perception and interpretation of things. Some are different and so is their character; and integrity. The authors work shouldn't be judged or criticized because of it. Especially, when those doing it are unjust previously in doing so.
I know posting something like this might be seen as controversial and individuals may feel the need to go out of their way to tear me down or make rude comments towards me for not sharing the same views as them. So be it; I'm sorry you feel the need to reprimand me. But the fact remains; I don't need reprimanding, All that I ask is you respect my opinion and views. You don't have to like it or even agree with it; just respect it. I did not set out to purposely offend anyone with this post. Just wanted to put down my thoughts and views on the topic of F.S.O.G..
The bottom line is; if a book tells a good story I'm probably going to read it. Regardless of the negativity surrounding it. Same goes for a movie associated with a book. So yes, you can bet your ass I will be seeing F.S.O.G. in theaters when it debuts Feb 13. 2015 and I'm gonna love every minute of it. Hopefully......
xoxo
Emily
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